As parents we make many decisions a day and some are more difficult to make than others. When it comes to choosing a healthy baby, it takes priority over all else. We all know that breastfeeding instead of formula feeding is what’s best for babies. However there are times, as Cassandra’s story will tell you, that the choice to not breastfeed is the best choice.
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Choosing a Healthy Baby over a Breastfed Baby
“I chose a healthy baby over a breastfed baby… And it hurt deeply.”
I brought my healthy daughter home on May 30th with every intention to breastfeed her for as long as she would allow. I nursed as often as she wanted and pumped in between. My freezer was full of milk for my return to work and I was confident that I had everything under control and that my daughter would be well nourished.
My daughter grew and was so healthy. At least that is what I thought. Soon we were going to the doctor often for weight checks as she dropped from 50th percentile to the 20th percentile to the 7th percentile. My heart broke with every weight check. I changed my diet going so far as to rid my body of all dairy and soy products in hope that it might help my daughter. Reflux meds were prescribed but her weight continued to stay the same. I cried after one weight check where I was told she had only gained 3 ounces in a 4 week period.
I was mad at my body. What was wrong with my milk that my baby would not gain weight? It was finally suggested by the doctor that we add a teaspoon of formula to bottles of breast milk. When that didn’t work we were encouraged to just feed my daughter formula. I couldn’t believe it. I thought breast was best but here was my sweet baby so underweight.
Not wanting to let go of feeding my daughter breast milk, I would put an entire scoop of formula straight into ever two ounces of breast milk. It may not have been ideal but my daughter grew very quickly. In a month she put on an entire pound PLUS 7 ounces. I was blown away when I heard her weight! She went from 7th percentile to the 14th!
Now she is a happy 7 month old and while I may have planned to nurse for quite a while longer, I am so happy that my daughter is gaining weight. A healthy baby is what I truly want.
Many moms struggle with breastfeeding. Other moms like to share how easy it was for them and while that may be true, it just isn’t something those of us who struggle with it want to hear. I’ve seen
women comment on various articles saying that moms who do not breastfeed are lazy. In reality I believe most of us are quite the opposite. I know I tried drinking mass amounts of water, taking brewer’s yeast pills, taking fenugreek, etc. trying to just pump enough milk for my daughter. I know that no matter how many supplements I take or how much water I drink just does not matter because my body responds to a baby not a pump.
My wish for 2016 is that moms will treat each other better. I think when we get down to it, we are all trying our best and feeling like we are failing miserably. I would love if you readers could share words of encouragement to moms in the comment section. We have too much negativity in the world. Let’s share some positivity today!
I encourage mothers with underweight children to listen to their child’s pediatrician. What worked for my child may not work for yours. I am no doctor and this article does not contain medical advice.
Has there been a time where choosing a healthy baby over a breastfed baby affected you?
About Cassandra Montoya
Cassandra is a wife and mother of two beautiful girls. She is passionate about her full-time job as a teacher that teaches reading skills to students with special needs. When she isn’t working, Cassandra enjoys finding new places to explore with her beautiful girls and loving husband, blogging at Parent Without A Manual and photography.
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