8 Ways to Stay Hopeful while Carrying a Rainbow Baby
Family,  Guest Post,  Mommy,  Pregnancy Series

8 Ways to Stay Hopeful while Carrying a Rainbow Baby

The feelings I felt are not different from other moms that also had a rainbow baby.  It feels like you’re walking on a tightrope and this week’s guest contributor is Mary Echols, an RN who blogs about the amazing adventures of pregnancy.  Mary will teach you 8 ways to remain hopeful while carrying your rainbow baby.

*This post was first published on www.theamazingadventuresofpregnancy.com and was edited for reader preferences.  See the original post here.

There will be dancing in the rain
There will be sunshine behind the clouds
There will be Rainbows after the storm
Step. By. Step.
Eyes focused
Breathing. Slowly.
One. Breath. At. A. Time.
Heart Guarded.

Carrying a Rainbow baby; which is a baby conceived after a miscarriage or loss can feel like you are walking on a tightrope.  It’s a careful balance between the excitement, joy and hope of a new life; and memories of the past. A balance of validating the child you loss, acknowledging the baby who you never held in your arms, but will always hold in your heart; with opening your heart to trust your body , to bond with the new pregnancy/baby.  You will realize that there is not a “ normal “ as you embrace a “new normal”. Every bathroom break will have you questioning “is it happening again?”, “is this okay?” . This journey across a tightrope can be challenging, it can be scary, it can be unfamiliar.


There is hope while carrying a Rainbow baby. I’m writing this post so you will know, despite the pain and uncertainty and fear you can have hope. I want you to know it is a blessing in carrying a new life. I want you to know you are not alone on your journey. There are many women walking the same journey with you.

8 Ways to Stay Hopeful while Carrying a Rainbow Baby

8 Ways to Stay Hopeful while Carrying a Rainbow Baby

Remember the baby you miscarried/loss

That baby’s life is precious; and their life mattered- even if it was a short while.  You many not have held your baby, cared or nurtured your child– the baby is still yours and their memory matters. I have found guilt sometimes associated with a pregnancy loss is eased when you acknowledge the baby you loss.

Own your feelings

Know everything you feel is true to you. There is not a right way to be happy or right way to grieve the baby/babies you loss. Work through the process. If you need counseling / spiritual advisor, family member or a really good friend- Know it is okay to talk with someone about your feelings.

Celebrate this life

Some women wait until the 12-13th week to announce the pregnancy. However, if you want to SHOUT your positive pregnancy test when you first test- That is okay. This life is precious and deserves to be celebrated!

Bond with the Baby

After a loss it can be difficult to trust your body to do what it does. You may have a guarded heart. Things to help you bond with the baby: Talk to the baby, dream about the baby, ‘see a future” with the baby

One Day at a Time

Seems very simpleYet, it can be difficult. Try to focus on each day and what it brings.  Rejoice in the present day that you are carrying your baby.


Praying for peace, wisdom and Faith have served as great comforts during challenging times


Taking the time to write your pregnancy journey.  A journal will given you a place to vent, be excited, expresses the uncertainty and hope . To have a place to dream and believe

Know that everyone’s journey is different

There is not one idea thought or suggestion that will work for everyone.  You know what will help you have hope while carrying a Rainbow baby. Trust yourself and your instincts.

There will be dancing in the rain
There will be sunshine behind the clouds
There will be Rainbows after the storm

About the Author: Mary Echols

My name is Mary Echols,and I ‘m the
creator of The Adventures of Pregnancy. I am a wife, mother,
Nurse and ‘Champion of all Pregnant Women’ !

Connect with M. Echols,RN,BSN,MSN Website | Instagram




Did you have a rainbow baby? What advice do you have for other moms who might need it after a miscarriage and is now carrying a rainbow baby?

Thank you for visiting Mommy Engineering!

Enjoyed this post? Don’t forget to Share!

8 Ways to Walk the Tightrope with Hope while Carrying a Rainbow Baby #Rainbowbaby #Miscarriage #PregnancyAdvice Click To Tweet

Mommy Engineering's Pregnancy Series

Our goal is help mothers with parenting and achieving healthy family living! We want to be your resource for parenting tips and healthy home and family living habits through insightful articles from fellow moms! Let us be your resource for all your parenting and family questions!

Get the latest parenting tips and healthy family living DELIVERED!
Learn more here and sign up!

Let’s connect on social media!
By connecting with me, you’ll help Mommy Engineering connect with more brands/companies to continue to bring you great content and exclusive giveaways and deals!

Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest

Want to be featured on Mommy Engineering?
Let’s work together!
We are a PR-Friendly blog and we also accept guest and sponsored posts!
For guest post submission details please visit our Submissions Page!
For Sponsored Posts inquiries please visit our Disclosure Page!

Spread the love
  • 16

Wife, Stay at Home Mom of two boys, and blogger. Friends and family call me Kaye but my personal favorite is "Mom." I am truly blessed to have the opportunity to be at home with my two baby boys. As an engineer by career, and stay-at-home mom by choice, I write about how to “Invent. Innovate. Design. Mommyhood” and what that entails.

  • http://www.getahappydate.com Analie From Get A Happy Date

    Stay hopeful and good luck with your pregnancy. I’ve been married for a year but we don’t have plans yet of having a baby. I’m scared of pregnancy actually. I hope I will have the courage later.

  • http://ceohangout.com/blog Vinil Ramdev

    Life can be really cruel at times. A friend of mine once said, “Get up, get out, and face it.” And in hindsight, that’s all we can do, fight everything life throws at us.

  • http://www.sahmreviews.com Scott

    I had never even heard of the term, even though we went through the same thing! I wonder if it’s a more recent name or we just never knew…

  • Jake Smith

    Oh. I first thought what the term mean and when I read through, I knew. And how the way rainbows are. It will be difficult to lose an unborn child. – easyblogthemes.com

  • Marlene

    My heart is both sad and happy for you all at the same time. I can not imagine the struggle every single day you endured. Congrats on your rainbow baby.

  • http://clementinecounty.com Melanie Walsh

    I was so blind-sighted by my miscarriage that I hadn’t been stressing at all about it being a successful pregnancy. The next pregnancy did bear some more anxiety, but thankfully all worked out.

  • http://www.caviteniofilipino.blogspot.com ronley

    Thanks for putting up this post. Lots of women will surely find this article of yours very helpful.

  • Pingback: 4 Things I Learned During my First Birthing Experience ⋆ Mommy Engineering()