As most mommy bloggers are, I too, am a Stay-at-Home Mom (SAHM). Although I’m blessed to have the opportunity to stay at home and raise my own children, I have a very personal love-hate relationship with being a SAHM. I went to school for Chemical Engineering which is a 100% time-dedicated curriculum and marriage and kids definitely didn’t play into it well. Little did I know that I would meet my future husband in engineering school. We got married and my priorities rearranged itself forever.
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Returning Back to Work: A SAHM’s Dilemma
Maybe I didn’t watch enough Disney growing up but the last thing I thought about as a little girl would be getting married and starting a family (maybe getting married but I definitely didn’t think I could ever be a mom). I wanted to make a big difference in the world with researching, laboratory work, etc. That was always my dream career, not stay at home mom and homemaker.
Eventually these SAHM days will be over for me once both my boys go to school full time. Until then, a little love, patience and some extracurricular activities to help me survive being a stay at home mom.
Job Title: Stay-At-Home Mom (SAHM)
Sometimes it’s a choice and other times it’s necessary, whichever reason you have for being a stay at home mom, being one isn’t easy. It’s a job that requires long hours with little to no pay. Sometimes you have to pull a double back-to-back shift, overtime is always a must and break times are short and far between. It’s a job that’s different everyday and one that will certainly test your patience and sanity.
Contrary to popular belief, stay at home mom is a job. Unfortunately it’s hardly recognized and our society isn’t forgiving to those wanting to return back to the work force after some years of being a stay at home mom. Furthermore, a woman often times have to make a choice between starting/having a family or having a career. The reason is because employers do not offer appropriate and necessary time and accommodations for families, women in particular. As women still do not get paid as much as a man in most careers; to have a sustainable family, most women choose to give up their career for their family.
I hope to return back to my original career goals but returning to the work force is a lot harder than I thought it would be. Most job applications will ask you to explain gaps between employment, try explaining a 5 year gap. I’ve read about some amazing companies looking to change this and hope one day that it will be required by all companies. I’m not just talking about extending Family Medical Leave (FML). One company in particular has extended benefits for women, allowing them plenty of time-off and restructured work hours to ensure women who choose to have children are given the opportunity and resources to return to the work force. They also provide extra time-off for fathers and have an amazing child care program for their employees. This program allows working parents to enroll their children and also see them during their lunches. An interesting fact about this company is that they have a 95% return rate of women returning to work after pregnancy. This is huge ladies and all companies should strive for these. Seriously though society, when are we going to get this right?
Let’s face it, our society isn’t truly accepting of Stay-at-Home Moms (or even Stay-at-Home Dads) and it needs to change. Unfortunately I don’t believe this change will happen in my lifetime. Until then, I make a world of difference in my two boys so I can say I still did what I always dreamed of doing.
Thoughts to Consider
Was it by choice that you became a stay-at-home mom?
Do you plan on returning back to work once your children are older?
What struggles do you think, if any, of returning back to work if that is your plan?
Do you feel the treatment of SAHM status in the workforce is fair?
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